Ideal Woman pt2

This is the second part of my last post concerning the Ideal Woman. I am not sure if I will continue to break this into two separate posts, but it was something I felt best for the first two chapters.
If you are reading this and haven’t read the last post, it may be best that you go back, so that you will better understand what I am writing about.
There were two assignments, but I am choosing to focus more on the second assignment. The first assignment was to write out twenty-five qualities you possess(just in case you were wondering). The second one was for me to write out the Angelic and Human qualities that I have and ones I need to work on.
I believe that I have a stronger Angelic side than human. As I read up on the Angelic side I saw these were the reasons Kerwin fell in love with me.He feels that I understand him for who he is. He saw the inner happiness that I have, my character and my love for my domestic duties. I will admit, that there are times that I have to work on understanding since I know I am not 100% of the time, but he tells me that he knows that I understand him.
My Human qualities are what I have been working on the past week. Human qualities are Feminine, radiates happiness and childlikeness. The feminine part is what I have been working on most. I believe I am feminine, but I also know that I can be a take charge type of person. There have been times in my life that I had to be in order to get things done. Now that I am married, I have to remember that I can relax and not take charge of things. I am happy that I have a husband that does get things done so I can relax whenever I need to. I am glad that he sees that I am trying to “be cool”, his words lol.
I am grateful to have this book to remind me of things that will be helpful to my marriage.

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Ideal Woman

I wrote in my last post that I was starting to read Fascinating Womanhood. I read through the first two chapters and completed the assignments. This post I will try to give a brief summary of those chapters. The first chapter was speaking of examples of man’s true love for woman. It also encouraged how it was possible for your husband to truely love you.
The second chapter was learning of the ideal woman through a man’s eyes and qualities they look for in a woman. As I read, I did notice that men look at qualities that women sometimes do not pay much attention to. I find in my own marriage things that I find least fascinating are the things that Kerwin finds most attractive about me. I saw in this chapter that men find girlishness, tenderness, sweetness of character and the ability to understand men attractive. I also saw how this was true with Kerwin and I. One of the main things that made him fall in love with me was that he knew I understood who he was as a person and accepted that.
The next part of the second chapter continued to go into dept of the ideal woman divided into two parts. The Angelic and the Human.
The Angelic, Helen states, “Awaken a feeling near worship. They bring a man peace and happiness”. These are spiritual qualities, which are good character, understanding of men, domestic skills, and a quality of inner happiness.
The Human side,”Fascinate, amuse, enchant, and arouse a tender desire to protect and shelter.” Her appearance, manner, and feminine nature which include things such as childlikeness, good health, and radiance.
She explained in a few examples how some women possess some of these qualities, but lacked in others and how it effected the relationship.She intends to explain how we can possess them all to be the ideal woman for our husband.
Now that I gave a summary of the chapters, my next blog post will be about the assignments and Kerwin’s reaction to them as I complete them.