This is the second part of my last post concerning the Ideal Woman. I am not sure if I will continue to break this into two separate posts, but it was something I felt best for the first two chapters.
If you are reading this and haven’t read the last post, it may be best that you go back, so that you will better understand what I am writing about.
There were two assignments, but I am choosing to focus more on the second assignment. The first assignment was to write out twenty-five qualities you possess(just in case you were wondering). The second one was for me to write out the Angelic and Human qualities that I have and ones I need to work on.
I believe that I have a stronger Angelic side than human. As I read up on the Angelic side I saw these were the reasons Kerwin fell in love with me.He feels that I understand him for who he is. He saw the inner happiness that I have, my character and my love for my domestic duties. I will admit, that there are times that I have to work on understanding since I know I am not 100% of the time, but he tells me that he knows that I understand him.
My Human qualities are what I have been working on the past week. Human qualities are Feminine, radiates happiness and childlikeness. The feminine part is what I have been working on most. I believe I am feminine, but I also know that I can be a take charge type of person. There have been times in my life that I had to be in order to get things done. Now that I am married, I have to remember that I can relax and not take charge of things. I am happy that I have a husband that does get things done so I can relax whenever I need to. I am glad that he sees that I am trying to “be cool”, his words lol.
I am grateful to have this book to remind me of things that will be helpful to my marriage.
I wrote in my last post that I was starting to read Fascinating Womanhood. I read through the first two chapters and completed the assignments. This post I will try to give a brief summary of those chapters. The first chapter was speaking of examples of man’s true love for woman. It also encouraged how it was possible for your husband to truely love you.
The second chapter was learning of the ideal woman through a man’s eyes and qualities they look for in a woman. As I read, I did notice that men look at qualities that women sometimes do not pay much attention to. I find in my own marriage things that I find least fascinating are the things that Kerwin finds most attractive about me. I saw in this chapter that men find girlishness, tenderness, sweetness of character and the ability to understand men attractive. I also saw how this was true with Kerwin and I. One of the main things that made him fall in love with me was that he knew I understood who he was as a person and accepted that.
The next part of the second chapter continued to go into dept of the ideal woman divided into two parts. The Angelic and the Human.
The Angelic, Helen states, “Awaken a feeling near worship. They bring a man peace and happiness”. These are spiritual qualities, which are good character, understanding of men, domestic skills, and a quality of inner happiness.
The Human side,”Fascinate, amuse, enchant, and arouse a tender desire to protect and shelter.” Her appearance, manner, and feminine nature which include things such as childlikeness, good health, and radiance.
She explained in a few examples how some women possess some of these qualities, but lacked in others and how it effected the relationship.She intends to explain how we can possess them all to be the ideal woman for our husband.
Now that I gave a summary of the chapters, my next blog post will be about the assignments and Kerwin’s reaction to them as I complete them.
I finally got life somewhat back on track, to be able to take the time to blog again. I feel horrible when I can not be consistent in my blogging. Hopefully my new schedule will help me stay on track.
Nehemiah will be 6 months in a couple weeks. It’s been very exciting to see him grow. He is such a blessing to us. He brings such joy to our lives.
Lately, as I have been reading to him, I felt the need to get back to my own personal Bible study.
As most of you know, having a new baby can become a challenge to a marriage when it comes to balancing time with caring for baby, household chores and time for your spouse. Thankfully, my husband is a very patient man and very understanding when I am tired by the end of the day. He has been a great help; I call him my superman. On rough days he comes home from a 12 hr shift and still has enough energy to assist me in anyway he can. I couldn’t ask for a better husband.
Anyway, as I was reading to Nehemiah I thought about a book that I had purchased a couple of years ago, but never got a chance to finish reading it. I found it very insightful and enjoyed the info in it. I felt that now was the time for me to read and complete it. I felt this was now the time to get back to focusing more on my marriage and my husband Kerwin. I am always looking for improvment on being a better wife. He is such a great husband and I know at times I can be something to deal with lol. The book is called ‘Fascinating Womanhood’ by Helen Andelin. I will be reading and blogging about the assignments and Kerwin’s reactions to them(he doesn’t know about me reading this book). I can’t wait to start this little journey. I have already started rereading it. The first few pages have been again, a blessing. I can’t wait to apply the methods and keep track of the progress. This is something I know can be a blessing to me and I hope it will be one to you also. I encourage every woman to purchase the book.
If you have heard of the book or read it, what are your thoughts?
It has been a rough couple of weeks for my husband. He has been seeking a better paying, more fulfilling job. It has been a challenge waiting as we see our finances dry up. With each passing day, I see my husband grow more frustrated and feel abandoned by the Lord. Watching him respond this way hurts and I try to remind him that all will get better. I remind him we can praise God that all bills are paid up and nothing is cut off or threatened to be turned off. We have made it another month and still have a place to call home. I try to rest in these things knowing that God has made sure everything has been provided for. Yet, when looking up ahead it looks… well you know bleak. That puts fear in our hearts. The days seem to get tougher to get through. Day after day he comes home with another thing that went wrong at work. I start to find my encouraging words no longer having the effect they once had. I see the hurt and anger rise up in my husband’s eyes as he leaves for work and comes home. It worries me. When I try to encourage and see it’s not working I find myself getting frustrated with him. Wondering why he won’t seem to just stand on God’s Word and promises that a better day is ahead. I admit I understand his frustration. He is overworked, underpaid and unappreciated, not to mention we recently found out we are expecting our blessed little one. Though we are very happy it’s hard to really rejoice and enjoy this wonderful time with such financial stress.
Over the past couple of days I found myself frustrated with his frustration. I started to think he was giving up on God being able to help and deliver us. I worried about my husband and this route he is going down. In my heart I know he won’t give in to the enemy, but it still hurts seeing him hurt and there is nothing I can do.
I woke up this morning with a praise to God. I knew for the past couple of days that the best thing to do was to keep moving and praising God for deliverance! This morning I found that sometimes speaking is not always necessary. Sometimes, just hearing him express his heart with a sympathetic ear was enough. I take what he has shared in my private time of prayer. Days before, I was getting mad at him, but that only turned us against each other in a fight where we needed each other. God convicted me. How much did I take this situation in serious prayer to God on behalf of my husband? I did pray for him throughout the day, but seriously just went in and cry out on his behalf. Speak the Word over him and read aloud God’s promises in prayer. Set the atomsphere in my home to one of praise and thanksgiving to what God has done and what He is going to do. Today, I went into prayer speaking His Word with confidence that He will deliver and open the doors that no man can close. I went in knowing that God, our Father knows the things we are in need of.
As my husband’s help meet, it is my job to go before the Lord in prayer and stand with my husband in faith. Even if he’s weak, I learn to hear his cries and take them to the Lord and to speak the Word to my husband’s spirit.
As wives we need to continue to stand with our husbands. We need to be cover them in constant prayer. The enemy is out to destroy our families anyway he can, but know that as we stand in faith, VICTORY is ours!